Ghanaian actor Chris Attoh and Nigerian Actress Demilola Adegbite are officially divorced.
The news was revealed by Chris Attoh in an interview with Bella Naija, after several weeks of speculations from the general public that the two movie stars have separated. However, they both came out to debunk the rumour.
Chris and Demilola tied the knot on February 14, 2015 on the day observed as chocolate day(valentines day).
However, exactly two years after their marriage, the two have agreed to go separate. Reason?
According to Chris Attoh in his interview, the issue has always been about balance, where their parents had always stepped in to take over from where they left off for their busy work scedules. Quite an interesting condition to trigger a divorce.
Obviously, it would be strange to ask the question why? when? and how? both actors found out that they were compatible candidates for a matrimonial journey.
The obvious Odds…
Arguably, very few celebrities in the creative arts industry have survived the relationship or marriage test.
In most cases, the relationship falls apart because both partners get too busy chasing their personal dreams.
Some others suffer the ‘pride and ego’ ordeal that fuels misunderstanding and criticisms that leads to a break-up.
In some cases, the cause of the break-up is about infidelity and when both partners cannot tolerate it anymore, they end it.
However, in the case of Chris and Demilola, he revealed the issue has always been about balance.
When asked how he and his ex-wife Damilola Adegbite balanced their marriage, son and work, he said:
“I believe throughout our marriage, It has probably been one of the most challenging things we have ever done, however, the key word is balance. At times when we both had to work, our parents would be there to hold the fort. God bless family because they were and still are very supportive.
However, since the divorce, we are obviously now reworking things to create a new balance between work, spending time with and raising our son. Dami is a wonderful woman and an amazing mother. Despite our differences, she and I will always be friends.
So more than anything, we will find ways to continue to make sure that Brian can still have a balanced upbringing filled with love and support.Both our families have been and are still very supportive in helping us take care of our son Brian when we can’t be there due to work.”
The Wild Guess…
Taking a wild guess at Chris’s definition of balance in context to their break up, it is obvious both candidates were having a hard time fusing their marital and professional responsibilities together to keep the marriage going.
Thus, parents of the couple had to step in to take over from where the two celebrity love birds left off, but like Oliver twist, it appears they just could not stop asking for more of a balancing recipe from their parents.
No matter what the conditions and circumstances were, the couple had to take a decision that is somewhat difficult.
Chris and Demilola’s intentions to tie the knot trended for months on social media because the two movie stars were promising wild cards and favourites of Ghana and Nigeria. Infact they were rising sweethearts of both Ghallywood and Nollywood.
A Blessing and a Curse…?
Their marriage if had survived the test of time, would have been a classical example of a cross-national marriage involving celebrities. A move that would have further strengthened ties and deepened the inter-marriage drive between the youth of Ghana and Nigeria.
With the current development, other celebrities with intentions of trying the cross-national marriage would have no option but to take a critical look at life beyond the sweet public views into finding out how to make things work.
Atleast, Chris and Demilola had a son, so there still would be some mother and father love engagements. But if Hollywood is not very distant from Ghallywood and Nollywood in terms of lifestyles, then we could only get our fingers crossed, expecting to see a make-up sometime soon hopefully.
The break-up however stands as one of the most descent, since none of the two parties involved has taken the blame game route to find solace but rather it has been a calm and mature way of exiting a marriage that is just not working.
Again, there’s a lesson learnt that maturity can always override sentiments and emotions when things don’t go as planned.
By: Listowell Acquaye | Ghanagist.com